Are you listening or just waiting your turn to talk?

conversationDave Pollard’s article Ideas for Better Conversations deals with what conversations are used for, some of the problems with current conversations, and how to improve them. I think the best way to improve conversation is to pay more attention to body language and slow down. In our current society of manic busyness, fast conversations are seen as more effective because they save time, but a conversation finished in one minute loses a lot of information that could be conveyed properly in five minutes when participants have a chance to listen properly, think things through, and articulate themselves well. If you doubt this, just count how many complaints are made of public speakers speaking too fast, then ask yourself why this speed is accepted in one-on-one conversations.This is another reason why blogging is becoming popular, because people miss the deep conversations where ideas were shared and time was taken to think things through.

2005.04.07